The Art of Seduction; Revealing the Sensualist Perspective

You made an ultimate sacrifice with your five traditional senses to make hot passionate love with your loved one. You are slowly checking off the Lover’s Christmas List as the countdown in December entices participation in every room of the house. The Christmas tree is finally decorated with bright lights, handmade ornaments, and decorative holiday ribbons. The stockings are hung by the chimney with care and the arousing scent of the slice and bake cookies linger in the air. The passionate urges surface the mind, your lover patiently awaits in the bedroom sprawled out and refined. Your mesmerized eyes pay close attention to the red carpet runner of rose petals leading into the bedroom. Your significant other’s sexually appealing nature in intimate apparel is an incentive to come closer.

The candle lit atmosphere glistening across the room rejuvenated the desire to embrace the night’s anticipated explorative opportunity. Then, you suddenly hesitate upon entering the room. Your mind races with mixed feelings of love and betrayal from the lack of disclosing concerns of intimacy through an effective exchange of communication. You placed in a situation where you crave their sensual touch and emotional connection but the overall intimate performance has declined in the last few attempts. You are always left hot, bothered and never sexually satisfied. The stimulating foreplay, if you are extremely fortunate that night, is rarely introduced. The opposite side of the situation may lead into the wrong approach for sensual play. You might be receiving the foreplay, but something is hindering your body’s potential to release the inner lover from within. How do you help them forward to enhance the overall intimate encounter without being too assertive? I am proud to announce my secrets behind my intimate motives for the art of seduction. I hope you can take this opportunity with you back into the bedroom. If you are single, just imagine everything happening. Let me intrigue your mind, stimulate ideas, and allow yourself to explore the unknown of qualitative erotic narration. Ladies, I will make you relaxed in the next few paragraphs. Please be aware that this will be one of my first erotically explicit posts I have ever written. Find a place to relax, get comfortable and enjoy The Art of Seduction; Revealing the Sensualist Perspective.

The spotlight is now on the woman who knows what she wants, where she will get it, how she will get it, and when she will get it. Guys, you will have your turn later with a very rewarding outcome if you follow my advice precisely as written. We cannot cut corners here. She is not an economic concern, but a physical and emotional one. Now, let me explain a few things before we get started. I cannot emphasize enough on how many times my friends come up to me to vent their sexual frustration from their boyfriends. If you cannot please your woman the most effective way possible, please continue reading. I will explain everything in a very fun and interactive way. First, let’s focus on her. Just take this time to look at your woman from afar. What makes her distinct in a public environment? What fascinates you the most about her appearance? Do you ever acknowledge your feelings about her appearance or personality? Straight dope – do you tell her how you truly feel just enough for her to realize the appreciation, love, and security with the man of her dreams? If she has to question whether she should stay or not, or if her friends feel obligated to suggest that you do not deserve the role of being her boyfriend – there is a deterioration in the relationship. If you do not fix this now, you will face the consequences of a failed attempt at building an architectural masterpiece. If you want sex, earn it. If you want great sex, give yourself more challenges. Learn to build a solid foundation of first impressions and honesty. Begin to structure the walls with durability and spaces for captured moments and framed memories. Then, build more floors until you reach the opportunity to complete the house with a roof. The roof of trust is not only for security, but strength and reputation that you both can maintain stability in the future. That is why you should understand the connection between architectural design and building relationships.

Now, I must lay out the rules and instructions on how to “play your cards right“. I am not bluffing and you will win that large pot of chips left in the center of the table.

Remember, this is a 2 player only game. Sorry, but there is no ménage à trois, monsieur.

Object: Collect all the sexy facts about your lover and successfully show your comprehension at the end by taking an oral examination. If you pass this test with at least 90% of the answers right through your actions,  a label of being crowned as one of the best lovers in the world will occur. Now, that does not sound that bad at all, right? It sounds like a very fun-filled interactive way of saying, “20 Questions for Adults”. However, there is a catch. I did not mention how many sexy facts for you to figure out. Why? All women are created equally .. different. Yes, what pleases her may not please the girl next door. Be careful! You only have one shot at this! If you do not succeed, the overall performance that night will fail miserably, especially for her.

Setting up:  Find some time together to discuss intimate matters before gliding across the game board. Never assume that she is ready to open up to a personal and private conversation. Sit down, relax, and open up to the conversation by saying, “Hey, I’ve been thinking about you a lot lately.” You will instantly spark her curiosity, and interest will arise in what you  say next. If are not the guy to ever open up to your own woman, this will definitely throw her off guard. Make her feel appreciated, loved and important. Tell her how much you feel about her and your concern that she never takes time out of her busy day to relax. If you emphasize and acknowledge taking time out for herself, it might be difficult to persuade a business woman. Engage in effective communication with her. This does not entitle you to talk her ears off about your sexual preferences.

The core object of the game is to collect as many sexy facts about her before you make your moves. If you cared that much, the least you could do is spare some time to understand her from a physical and emotional level. Establishing and maintaining relationships might be tough for someone trying to figure out what they want out of life. Ladies, do you ever fear that you landed in a commitment with someone who does not perform the greatest in the bedroom? Are you experiencing the life with someone who lost the passionate flame years ago? You will be trapped in a lot of unnecessary pressures, leaving you hesitant to seek an affair. That is completely understandable and I have no objection to those ideas. It is not your fault. Guys, a one-night stand does imply no strings attached interaction, however that does not necessarily mean you should slack off on the quality performance. If you are single, make her come back for more! Why settle for less and make no effort to take an advantage of that rewarding experience of being physically and emotionally connected with a complete stranger? Sex is not just sex, but the embrace of two bodies intimately intertwined with each other by fulfilling emotional and physical deprivations of the innate human soul.

When you mustered up the confidence to talk to her about something personal, you need to make that delivery important. Be extra careful not to leave the impression that you are in it to win it. This is a learning experience for both of you. This is an invaluable mutual embrace between two people and it should not be considered as a time to relieve sexual frustration. Let’s speed up the process of communicating effectively and turn to the questions you should muster up to ask. Why is this important? The choice of words will definitely have an impact on her feelings about this desire to make love to her. The precise location of the words that you may disclose might also be inappropriately premature. Do not suggest anything below the chin until you get your facts straight. Let me help you organize this transitional process in forming and articulating these questions. I will give you the information, and you ask about it later.

Let’s focus on the very first thing that she is begging you to explore due to the lack of attention provided. Put yourself ahead of everything, and give her sensual scalp massages. Did you know that scalp messages offer a release of serotonin, or the hormone that makes you feel really good inside, throughout your body? This massage will not only help rejuvenate her energy, but it will also help relieve pain and stress. Guys, do not assume that you are doing a great job. Explore the scalp from ear to ear, working around the base of the neck and behind the neck. Ask her about sensual scalp massages. Emphasize on running your fingers through her hair as she closes her eyes and expects a comfortable amount of pressure applied to the massage. If you do this right, you are on the path to success. Don’t just do it because I told you, but take out your isolated passionate side and caress her scalp with confidence.

All aboard! Remove that boulder off her shoulder!

Now, I am not necessarily telling you to give her a full body massage. However, a shoulder massage is definitely key to ease out the stress from her busy day. You want your woman completely relaxed, and she wants you to do the same. As your caressing her shoulders, ask her about her day. When she talks about the stress, reassure that she is in good hands. When you can start to feel her shoulders loosening up, give her another five minutes. If you feel frisky, give her shoulders a sensual peck.

Slowly glide your fingers across her neck, and caress her face closer to yours. As one hand is placed on her neck, hold it into position to provide her a few recommended kisses. Close your eyes. Start off with the forehead. The forehead is commonly ignored. Place a soft peck upon her forehead and then slowly open up your eyes to her beautiful smile raising high. She thinks you are extremely cute. Stop, take a moment to admire her by staring deep into her eyes and then kiss her cheek. Now, move across to her nose. Yes, her nose. Eskimo kisses are the best way to stay warm this holiday season. Do you have a cat? Practice this technique with your cat. They will also enjoy it, unless you have a cat from Hell. Slowly and playfully glide your nose along each side of their nose. Do it in a way where your noses are almost dancing together.

Are you taking all of this information down? Should we review? The best part is coming up next! The perfect transition from her nose is leading towards her chin. Yes, her chin. Believe it or not, but you can not spoil her rotten yet. Make her squirm with anticipation for that kiss! She wants you to indulge in a full-blown lip to lip embrace! Kiss that chin and move up to her other cheek. Go back to her nose, and playfully glide again. Playfully stare back, looking into her eyes and watch her non-verbal cues go wild after you. They are telling you that she is craving a passionate kiss now. She is completely open to this new arousal of physical intimacy. You are definitely showing off moves that most people cannot seem to express. That hidden desire for most people to discover on the outside is incredibly sexy to experience. Just follow the body language. Yes, now is a time to watch and listen. Stay focused and aware of what is going on.

Ready for the next tease? Move away from her nose, transition further down, teasingly brushing your lips across hers. Oh! She almost stole a kiss from you if you were quick enough to step back. Tame this wild lioness. She is ready to pounce! She is getting  extremely restless! Okay, fine, spoil her. Close your eyes, and embrace your lips together. Everyone is different in this department and there should be no assumptions within the expectations of each other. By understanding each other’s motives, the drive to work with the flow will be elevated. Be sensual and have fun. Slowly explore her lips and appreciate the kiss. Why rush this moment? You both deserve more than just this! Feel the adrenaline high and fight the butterflies that come along. You will be battling more butterflies when I mention the next destination. Are you ready? This one might leave a vampire ready to sink into more than just my words.

The neck is one of the most sensitive tourist attractions for anyone to discover on their expedition. Treat this vulnerable exposed area to a breathtaking experience with your fingertips and mouth.  Remember, less is definitely more. Slowly run your fingers across their neck and explore their neck with your fingertips. Watch carefully for body language. They might close their eyes, bite their bottom lip or pursue something else intriguing. Now, have some fun with this one. Tease them with soft blows across their neck until you reach to their cleavage. Then, quickly move back up gradually moving your lips away from their neck. Stare into their eyes and see their facial expressions. They might be sending out the invite for a deep penetrating blow to their skin with your teeth. Move back down, and softly kiss across their neck. Make sure to run your fingers through their hair while your lips are pressed against their neck. This will definitely spark some wild fires! As your massaging through her hair, gradually sink your teeth into her skin. Penetrate just enough for her to feel it without leaving any love bites behind, and then bring your lips out to kiss the spot. Mentally take notes and record her reactions. Ask for feedback. Determine what was too weak or just right. If you followed everything up to this point, you might be on the right track for success. Make sure to practice, improve and excel. Be committed to her and her body by truly understanding its fullest potential. You will see many rewarding results later as time progresses.

Feel free to come back up for fresh air and admire her brightly flushed face and her beautiful hazy eyes. If you are doing everything right, and she is melting at your fingertips, you will definitely see it by now. Admire her appearance, conservatively compliment her and just tell her enough to summarize your feelings of what just happened. Did you enjoy everything just as much as she did? Communication is a core reason for any sensual activity, especially when we transition further down to the next section of this post. Did you understand the core aim for why I started off with top region of her body? What you just did, or expect to do after you read this article, has shifted many different feelings aside. You allowed her body to relax, her mind to absorb all this attention and her fingers to feel the urge to wander. The respect for you has significantly increased the desire to pursue your intentions. 

Congratulations,  rookie! You finally hit a home run! I will help you reach a grand slam by the end of this post. Now, slow down just a minute there. Yes, you earned your way to second base. No, you really should take your time running there. Walk it out nonchalantly. She will wonder why you are taking your sweet time there. Give her the expectation of the unexpected. In the next section, I will focus on second base foreplay with explicit detail. If you are craving that transition further, continue reading. Consider yourself warned and extremely vulnerable for more warmth. Enjoy.

Soft passionate kisses run along the side of her neck moving further down her soft moisturized skin. Her sexually appealing, explorative body awaits the next move to come. Teasingly kiss along her sides and move down to her hips to give her some more excitement. Work your way back up by kissing across her vulnerable exposed stomach, teasingly gliding your lips along her skin. Now, take your time with this one. Caress her breasts and massage the area surrounding her nipples. Do not arouse or stimulate them just yet. Slowly bring them closer to your mouth and kiss softly around her nipples. Ready? A soft gentle blow across her nipples will give you a priceless facial expression. Tease them some more by gliding your lips around them. While you are caressing her body, kiss back up to her neck. Understand what arouses her the most and you will be golden. Remember, duct tape is silver. Everyone is different and not everyone will tolerate the same treatment. Some like it soft and sensual while others would rather have you do the next approach. Go in for the kill. Caress her breasts closer to your mouth, allowing your tongue to wrap around her nipples, feeling them harden inside. This is when you take the rewarding opportunity to use the tip of your tongue and playfully rub against them. Make her squirm and watch her facial expressions. Her body will be telling you a lot through non-verbal communication. Watch carefully and then decide when you move further down.

Try standing behind her, allowing her hand to be placed upon your thigh, and caress her body closer to you. As one hand massages her breast closer, you can teasingly glide your hand across her stomach. Massage her hips while you inch down further to her waistline. As soon as you take your sweet time moving further down, this is when she will expect you to slip your fingers down her panties. Give her that complete opposite response back. As soon as you start to feel her mons pubis, Latin for pubic mound, stop right there. Don’t feel for her Pudendal cleft! That would be the irresistible slit dividing her lips. Now, take your hand, and slowly caress this area. Massage it slowly and feel her body squirm even more. As your hand massages the skin right below her waistline, lean in from behind to kiss her neck. Then, be playful about where you are located.

Kiss the base of her neck, her shoulder, along her arms, and just relax her even more. Understand the huge difference between sensual and sexual. You are providing an emotional and physical support for her by being sensual. You are arousing all of her senses and her desires to feel intimately comfortable with you. Please do not ruin the moment by assuming she is ready. She wants you to continue the amazing work you are doing. You are proving yourself different from the rest. However, do not feel cocky about that role. You are a man, not a little boy. Do not assume you have bragging rights. You are technically not at third base. Do not blow it for the team! Now, lay her across the bed. Time to learn, explore and understand her body at a closer angle. Just stop, admire your woman all sprawled out and ready for you take an intimate advantage. No, she does not want you to penetrate her just yet. Learn how to prolong the process and understand that the outcome will be successful in the long run. Patience is the key to success, especially in this department. Ready? Let’s go, stud muffin.

Crawl on top of her, pinning her down on the bed with your hands linked with hers. Stare into her eyes, admire what you see, and appreciate who you are with at that precise moment. Smile back at her, repeat the facial kisses as I mentioned earlier and continue to make her feel everything she ever wanted. As your hands occupy hers, work your way across her face. Be playful and control the pace. As soon as you reach down to her neck, do as I mentioned before. Soft gentle blows across with your lips to follow along the way. Kiss across her neck, let go of her hands and allow her hands to guide your head further down. If she decides to push your head further down, do not go with the flow just yet. Slowly work your way across her chest, caress her beautiful breasts some more and passionately embrace your lips upon her erected nipples. Enjoy that sensational feeling of knowing that she is completely aroused and wet for you. However, do not take that as an advantage. You are extremely close to successfully making her dreams come true! Work your way back across her stomach, playfully kiss around her belly button, and give her hips some more attention while you are there. Congratulations. You are almost there to her waistline. There are some rules when you are approaching this zone. Take it easy and continue to be the ‘man‘ in ‘romance‘.

  Kiss along her waistline giving her the incentive that you are not rushing the moment of intense pleasure and anticipation. Think of this as if you are following a treasure map. You know exactly where the treasure chest is buried around you, but assume that nobody else will get the booty before you do. It is definitely reserved for you and only you at this time. Just wait it out by “digging” other areas around the x marked spot. Give her soft gentle blows across her thighs, and then make a trail of kisses along the way. Massage her thighs and tease her by giving her the impression that you are going to go further with your hands. Caress her inner thighs in a way where you know exactly where your fingers are teasingly running across but do not pay any attention to that area yet. Just focus on her inner thighs at this moment. The sensational feeling of arousal is building up inside. She does have another side to work on her thighs. Move over to do the same steps again with that side. Try kissing up her thighs, along her waistline and back down to other side. There is never enough time to throw out the door. So, you have yet to move to the third base. Impressive that you did not even attempt to go there yet! You are finally showing the true colors of a lover and a sensualist at a heart. Now, some women will not allow you to go down on them and others will invite you in a vast array of options. Most of the time they expect a mutual cunnilingus which can be easily arranged with the 69 sex position. If she does feel the urge to stay where she is and invite you down for a visit, take that offer if you are comfortable in doing so. Do not assume that you have to take that offer.  She will understand if you decline, however do not always expect to receive a favor in return.

Suddenly, she pushes your head further down to explore her most intimate area of her body. She has you secured while her legs straddle your face, and you are vulnerably set into the position to move into third base. What do you do now? Embrace the moment and take the next step to heart. She played a dominant move on you and now it is your turn to prove that you are not easy. Make those fingers work their magic! Massage her labia majora, the outermost lips around her vagina, to watch her squirm some more. Understand how sensitive her body is down there and take your time in exploring. Ready for some fun? Spread her lips apart with your fingers, the innermost labia minora, to exchange a pleasurable tease across. Now, with the tip of your tongue, slowly trace the alphabet between these lips. This will help you understand how to keep an effectively seductive pace going and how her body reacts to an overwhelming sensation. Would you like to see some sparks fly? Throw her off guard by gently blowing across her clitoris. Hopefully, you know where that is! Try not to overstimulate it! No, really, it is not funny to mess with that area. Try different techniques with your tongue and be comfortable with what you are doing. Confidence is definitely sexy here. If you don’t know what you are doing or how you should be doing it, let her help you. This is when communication is essentially important to please her in the most sexually fulfilling way. If she has yet to experience this, it will definitely be a learning curve for both of you.

By growing and developing a strong understanding for each other with the sexual preferences you both share, gradual improvement upon your overall sexual performance will definitely occur while maintaining a healthy sex life. Due to the fact that most women are different, it is an invaluable, yet extremely rewarding opportunity to understand your own woman better. As long as you can both communicate effectively through verbal and non verbal communication, the possibilities are endless. The core message for this post was to understand the art of seduction through a sensualist perspective. The oral penetration that you learned from the base of the neck to between her legs should give you a foundation of how to appreciate prolonged foreplay. I blame pornography and explicit videos that cannot emphasis the importance of foreplay. I have yet to show my chaotic intentions  for writing a romance novel. Stay tuned and extremely warm! If I stimulated interest and you want more to read in a much more explicit post, stepping aside from the How-To department, let me know. I will be willing to accommodate you in every way possible. Take care, everyone! Thank you for reading!